I think the worst comment I've gotten so far was from a "friend" (that I now regret telling... he was one of only three people I've told about it) about my gang rape in Germany: "Well you have to look at it this way. You CHOSE to go to Frankfurt that night. You had more control than you think." Oh yes... I chose to travel to another city from Berlin, so that must mean I also chose to have sex with 4 strangers at once at 3 am in an empty parking lot. And I had so much control being one, 5 foot tall, 110 lb female against 4 male police officers. Ugh.