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  1. Hi Bluejean and welcome to the site. "I have come here to get some outside support and opinions about my predicament from people who are not parcial to me". If I can help at all then feel free to PM me, or via open mail. Best wishes with it all Brian
  2. Hi Hannie, welcome to the site. I dont know if you know it or not, but there is an excellent U.S site for survivors of PTSD, that gives some excellent insights and support tips (I found the videos facinating and inspiring). If you want to take a look it is here www.ncptsd.va.gov/ncmain/index.jsp Take a look in the info centre for starters. Good luck with it Hannie and welcome again Brian
  3. Welcome to the group. I hoep this place brings all that you hope for yourself. Brian
  4. I hear your great desire to move forward from where you find yourself. Experiencing yourself as dying inside 10 years ago felt so terrible to me upon hearing it, the desolation of nothingness within :o( I believe that human beings have something within called the actualising tendency. An inner light, the very spark that means, we, as human beings, aspire to a higher level of functioning, to be and to feel the best that we can be and feel. Terrible experiences such as yours shatter that light, turn it into a tiny flame, flickering in that dark place that has been shattered, the flame doused b
  5. Thanks so much for your lovely comments everyone. Brian
  6. Just a line to say Hi to everyone who knows me. Uni is out at the moment so I'm back for a little while. Have been working hard at Uni (only one year and a bit left) and have established my own private counselling practice at the same time (As well as working full time - blinkin exhausted :o). Never forgot the place that gave me the strength to go on and do all of this I.E 'here'. So sad to see the note relating to Meg :o( It goes without saying that she was a truly lovely human being and there aren't enough Megs in the world these days, which means she will be doubly missed :o( Hoping
  7. Hi Sonnet and welcome to the group. Hope it brings that which you seek.. Brian
  8. Hi Kath, welcome to the group.. "This is my first entry and am nervous just typing!" You have been very brave, well done you!! "I had always imagined it to be a strange man jumping out from behind a bush on a dark night dragging me away kicking and screaming but it wasnt like that at all when it did happen." And so sadly you now know that its generally the complete opposite of this :o( So as well as trying to deal with everything else, you may also have had your faith in humankind shaken too :o( "I blame myself for not kicking and screaming and i keep making excuses for my perpetrator eve
  9. Hi and Welcome to A.S, "My main concern about me being here...is why do I need to be here? It's been 7 months. It seems like so long ago, yet it bothers me everyday." I guess if something within you suggests that you may need to be here, to experience some empathy and support for a while then its probably right to trust those feelings.. "It wasn't a violent act where he physical force. He more coerced me into doing it. But I did it, so does it count? I'm so confused. He didn't rape me. He almost did. I hope I can find support here...because some of my friends have kind of abandoned me or
  10. Hi Bohica and welcome to the group, so hope you find that which you seek here! "I am about to start a new round of therapy to get to the deepest, darkest, nastiest things that were left over from all the other therapy. I can't blame the counselors from before; they didn't know as much about the effects as they do now. WE (and others like us) are the ones who give them their insight." As a counsellor I couldn't agree more with your final comments. If only all counsellors could be humble enough to recognise this and that clients never fit into neat little packages and if only all clients coul
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    Hi and welcome to the goup.. What a sad story, sounds like that little boy should be here too doesn't it :o( Hope you find the things you seek here and welcome again Brian
  12. Hi and welcome to the group..hope it brings that which you seek.. Brian
  13. Hi and welcome to the group, "I don't really talk about this, so this is pretty hard for me. " And in this you are a reflection of how it may be for many other survivors too :o( "I'm 36 years old and have pretty well dealt with everything but sometimes just want to talk to someone." I'm glad you have found this place and hope that you find the support that you are looking for here. I think you will. "I was molested when I was about 8 years old by a neighbor, a female teenager. Started slowly then escalated over a couple of years. I've always known what happened and have firm memories of
  14. I am in total awe of the wisdom and level of self understanding that exists within this group. The responses above are fantastic !!! Brian
  15. Do you know, the things that we need to say to ourselves are generally much more profound and important than anything we need to say to others. In coming here you are in a sense connecting with yourself, being kind to yourself, listening to yourself... This is a real starting point. You have every right to be here!! Brian
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