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  1. Lot's of people come here to talk about old stuff. I hope we can help, and it sounds like we can. Welcome to AS.
  2. Lots of people posting about bad feelings and other people posting supportive comments. A fair amount of giving each other advice, usually pretty good, but not always perfect. Lots of posting unusual symptoms or feelings or details of what happened and almost always finding somebody to tell you you're not the only one. Lots of helping each other believe that what happened was not their fault; lots of people post their reasons for blaming themselves hoping for reassurance and inevitably get it. A real sense of community where everybody around you has similar experiences. On the other hand t
  3. Setrain


    Hi, welcome to the forums. This actually is more typical than you realize. Most people don't fight back much and most people feel that they didn't say no loud enough. We are taught to be nice and non-confrontational and it's hard to overcome that in situations where the other person is being completely unreasonable. I'm pretty sure this is the main reason why so many people don't tell. So you're definitely not alone. I certainly didn't fight back much, and I blamed myself for a really long time. Spend much time here and you will realize that that's usually how it happens. I hope we can
  4. I think this would be useful too. I feel like the "less bad" types are actually really important to have, because people here really struggle with feeling validated to talk about less extreme experiences. I love the SA without physical violence thread for that reason. Its explicitly a way to feel like it still counts.
  5. Wow, lots of response. Y'all are awesome. Thanks. Calliehere: no need to apologize. You've already helped me a lot. Briarrosa: tell me more about the inner child stuff please. Also safe hugs accepted and appreciated.
  6. Calliehere: Yes that's exactly the sort of thing I'm talking about. Why do you think we do that? It doesn't feel unhealthy to me, it feels necessary. But I don't know what it accomplishes. Do you think its because people didn't listen to or believe me. Am I trying to prove its real? You don't have to answer but I'm curious whether you had the same problem of not being listened to or believed.
  7. Thanks you all. There is so much stuff here. I'm just trying to make progress through all the boards, responding where I have something to say. I'm kinda excited and want to do everything.
  8. to minute: not my whole life, but for the last 10 years. to JaneSays: I have a therapist and we get useful stuff done, but telling him stuff doesn't feel like telling. He's so professional; there's no emotional response. I don't know the emotional response I want, but like... the guy is just doing his job. He'd have to listen no matter what it was saying. It doesn't make me feel like what I'm saying matters, when there are so many others who have ignored me or failed to understand.
  9. Right so this is probably triggering itself. I finally decided to come here to ask this question because there are so many people here somebody has to understand. I'm PTSD. I'm hypervigilant and have flashbacks. But I don't avoid reminders I seek them hard, in art in news places people... I kept coming back over and over to the place I was molested. I look at pictures of myself at that age and look in vain for pictures of the babysitter who abused me. I stay up all night reading about kids getting hurt. I can't stop talking about it; I'm never done. Its like the Rhyme of the Ancient M
  10. Hi, I'm going by Setrain, the name of the kid hero in the first story I ever wrote as a kid with a happy ending (though a really sad middle). It seems appropriate. This is my second forum like this, but the first sort of drifted apart and closed down. I miss it a lot and this place seems big and well run enough to last. So: hi.
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