calliehere

I don't know how she has handled what happened to you but it doesn't sound like she handled well. Sounds like she thinks the best way to get past it is to put it behind. Seems to me like she is denying that the evil exists and that she wants you to buy into that philosophy. Sort of like if she acknowledges it then she has to deal with her son. I don't know but from the sounds of it, you are behaving like a survivor. Maybe turn that anger you have right now into energy to celebrate the fact that you were strong enough to make the best decision for you and to stand by it. Thats beyond survivor..

Wow, it's really been a long time since I have looked at this chart. I can't believe how much over to the right I am in the Thriver column these days. When I originally posted the chart, the majority of me was in the Victim column. I still have some Survivor aspects I need to work on in order to be be considered Thriving in that category and I'm looking forward to checking back at some point. I'm glad to read some of the comments in this thread.

When you get to the end of your rope, tie a knot and hang on!

You are all evil monsters

New members may not want to be bombarded with welcomes and insight. They may want to sit back and abosorb and maybe ask questions when they are ready. To me, its really about empowering a person to take control of their own path here. The survivor should have control over when he/she wants to step forward and be active as opposed to being an observer for a bit. A lot of us on here are very much into helping each other. If a newbie has a different color, I could see where they could possibly be inundated with greetings/advice/guidance when first appearing in chat.

welcome! I hope you find the site as supportive as I have.

Hi Emma, You were so brave to do that and you are an inspiration to others. Thank you for sharing your story! Callie

That's one of my favorite things about AS...its a place where you can feel accepted and its okay to ask questions without judgement. I hope you find it as helpful as I have. Callie

Welcome Christy! I hope you find AS as helpful and life changing as I have. I have made some incredible friends here and am looking forward to meeting more people. Hope to see you on the boards. Callie

My gf made me an awesome cup of coffee and incredible (healthy) scones so I got to have coffee and breakfast on my way to work. Oh! Can't forget the wonderfully safe feeling hug I got from her as a send off.

Yeah, might have to do that. That's a good idea. Thanks whitedove and Karen.

I have an iPhone 4. Geez...kind of a catch 22 here. I want to get it to work so I'd like to hand it over to my son to show him what I need but then he will know what site I am on and probably get online and check it out. Gonna have to see if I can do this one myself or if anyone else has some advice. Thanks for the feedback Ashley-Michelle.

Hey there, Just wondering if anyone ueses an iPhone to access chat. I know I've chatted with some people in the past who were on iPhones and I can't get mine to do it. I know I have to download a java but apparently I'm not doing it right. Any advice? Thank you! Callie

Exactly!!! Welcome to AS...

Welcome to AS. You're not alone here. I hope you are able to find the same incredible support that I have found here since I joined. I've met people that have changed my life forever in positive ways that I never could have imagined. Take Very Good Care Callie