KatetheGreat

This chart is so, so useful!! thanks for posting it. It's great to see where you are and what you need to work on.

Welcome to AS! If you have any questions about getting started/the site/navigation, we have a lovely Newbie Support Team who will be able to assist you. I hope you find what you're looking for, and then some more! Being a part of a community like this has helped me a lot, and I hope you share the same experiences. Good luck with your journey!

Please do. I think knowing how something works is the best information on how to destroy it. Making triggers powerless would solve a lot of my problems. Thanks for the help!

Hey, if I may, I can understand why. Not the same thing but, for reasons in my past, my therapist recommended a book called, Getting The Love You Want. in one section, it describes what they refer to as the, "Old Brain" and the, "New Brain." The new brain is our conscious mind and the old brain is where we store stuff. Pretty much every experience; every individual, etc. is stored there in pictures and events. And whenever we are, "triggered" what's actually happening is the new brain is taking what we are experiencing in the moment and sending it through the old brain's file system, if y

Hi John. I hope you find this site to be satisfactory, I know i did. I'd encourage you to stick around, whether your friend decides to join or not. I know a lot of secondaries have gotten some great help from here, and have been better able to aid their survivors. And you can also find support. Just because the trauma didn't directly happen to you doesn't mean you don't need help either. Being a secondary is a very tough job. Anyway, good luck with all your searching.

No, of course not! You don't have to tell your story ever, if you don't want to. Only when you're ready. And welcome to AS! I hope you find what you're looking for.

Thank you for the support, found. I really appreciate it.

Thanks! It kind of just came to me, it rhymed, and i wanted something empowering, or at least optimistic. A question for you all, now that I've looked around a bit. . . I feel hesitant about posting, or replying or anything. I feel out of place, like I don't belong. I don't know. It feels like I should earn my place here before I post anything. But I don't know how to become "un-new" without actually posting first.... I hate new things. I now realize that none of that was actually a question. Sorry.

Hi guys. Just wanted to throw myself out there, make my face known and whatnot. I'm 19, and i live in the midwest. I came here in hopes to help, and be helped. Thats all I can really think of right now. . . If you have any questions, feel free to ask.