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  1. Thank you for your responce. I have thought of writing him, many times. I imagine I'll do nothing in the long run, his mom and I have talked and I've told her how important it is to be there, validate his fears, feelings, and listen (without reactions if she can). It's a fine line, fighting my anger in how dare someone hurt him and wanting to reach out to him and knowing what a private matter it is and that he might be horrified if he knew I knew fearing it would push him farther. I've told my friend she can tell him about me, if she finds an open window and let him know I'll be there for
  2. I guess no one has any more answers than I did. I feel for this young man..... I love this young man like my son but sadly in this situation, I don't know what to say or not say. I thought here I'd find a reasonable answer for some approach......... but alas it has not come. For me, the worst part of my abuse was that my family shoved it under the rug, asked my why I let it happen, and essentially made me feel like I caused it. I spent a good 30 years running, ducking, and hiding from my feelings, the one who abused me, reliving my "wonderful" childhood in acting out in many ways, and ye
  3. My feelings exactly....... I'm torn .... I'm going to do a bit of shopping and will return later. I've been sitting on this for a month, and still haven't come up with an answer. I just hate to see another human life screwed up by those thoughts to creep in and mess up one's head..... as mine do in times of dispare. I just want to reach out to him and give him the support Iwasn't given when it was me, but fear him feeling worse by me knowing....... ugh!
  4. Hi, it's been quite awhile sense my last post, I've been doing ok...... I do need some advice on how to proceed with a friend's son. He was "attacked" is how he put it but an older man at college. I have no other details but he has sense stopped going to school, blew off an entire sememster, and did say he "didn't want to leave the house or see anyone so he didn't go to class". He called the police, and we've seen the police blotter to confirm that, but said "they didn't come back"when asked if he filed the report. He has sense, dropped out of school and wishes to join the Army, but ess
  5. Inner child, It's okay, your safe! That's all I want to say. Just felt I needed to tell her that.... and myself.
  6. Welcome aboard! Life events have lead us all here for one reason or another. You'll find many supportive people here.
  7. 1)The infamous, what's your favorite color? navy blue 2) What's your favorite animal? cat..... purrrrrrr 3) If you could meet one person, dead or alive, who would you want to meet? Jesus, so did all that really happen? 4) If you could turn into any animal for a day, what animal would you turn into and what would you do? an eagle 5) If you could have any job what would it be? wow, I have no clue, maybe a life gaurd....hahah. guess I'd be a teacher if I had to do it over. 6) If you could be any age for the rest of your llife, what age would you want to be? I'll pass on this one, would hat
  8. Okay, now I'm the idot...haha. I didnt' say how it worked.... it's live chat. Just like any other chat room on the net, you can pm (private message) which is like an IM.
  9. Your not an idot.... I had that same thing.... how huh, where is it. Anyway, it's on the top of the menu bar. See it next to view new post, control panel, then you will see Live Chat. Click that and it will take you there. Welcome to AS.
  10. I'm sorry your hurting and were hurt. Many of us have been right where you are. I hope you find this place as comforting as I have. Please know your not alone, we are listening.
  11. I didn't let hubby drag me into the game. For me that's a major accomplishment!!! I did that for me, not him. I wasn't in the mood to get into the "us" discussion, so I didn't. I wasn't rude, I wasn't mean, and I wasn't about to explain my feelings again for the 120000000000000000 time. So I came over to my mother's, where she's out of town to work on her computer. Feeling pretty calm these day and loving it!
  12. [i wrote that without reading the other posts. I guess I took it in another direction, but a direction that works for me. I always felt like I was a victim, in most all aspects of life. I didnt' feel like I was the one making the choices, but that the choices I'd made had gone wrong because of someone else's choices. It's that I make choices from that inner child... that little 7 (funny how that is a common age) year old girl who was first touched and scared. I made choices looking for her saftey.... her security.....not adult choices, but either fun fun choices or choices based on childi
  13. Today, my inner child is happy. She is finally feeling like she can stop hiding again! She got angry with me for allowing her to feel the anger and react like she sometimes does. I've hugged her and told her it was okay to be angry, okay to be furious for that matter, and okay not to feel bad about it. I told her it was okay to not want to be what everyone else wants her to be, and it's okay if she doesn't want to put up with some things anymore. It's okay, she doens't have to feel guilty for wanting more. She's happy that I have again, let her off the guilt hook. (funny but I never addr
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