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I have no idea either... but I do wish Invision would spend a little more time fixing old bugs rather than adding new features.

I'm sorry the upgrade didn't fix it. Unfortunately, it is out of our hands. We can fix it manually for a short time but eventually it will come back. Only Invision can fix it permanently... and they should have had, considering how many people complained about it.

Yes, I made a couple of days ago when I couldn't sleep. Thank you everyone for displaying our banners. I will post an easy code you can copy and paste into your webpages.

Hi Shannon, Thank you for asking! We do have banners and we are grateful when members choose to display them on their websites, myspace profiles, etc. Here is one: Smaller version: Alternative Banners: (For white backgrounds) (For black backgrounds) Small Banner:

Welcome to After Silence, anniemg. Congratulations on your 4 years of sobriety! Breaking addictions can be extremely hard and I hope you are very proud of yourself.

This bug will be fixed when we upgrade the board in a few days.... finally!!!

I will try to find one, Karen!!

One thing to remember is that it's now summer, and the board has always been less active during summer. Members have final exams, may go on vacation, and it is generally nicer outside so we all spend less time in front of the computer. The PM system won't be re-instated at the present time but it may be re-instated in the future, if all conditions to keep members safe and the chat room true to its mission are met.

Dear all, In an effort to eliminate barriers that may prevent members from participating, feeling safe in, healing, and benefiting fully from After Silence, we ask that members direct their complaints to the moderators (by sending them a PM) instead of posting them in the board. If you feel you have been treated unjustly, please do contact a moderator directly and we will do our best to assist you. This decision is mostly based on the growing frustration members experience with seeing the place they feel safe in and use to heal being attacked and questioned too harshly. It diverts energy awa

I'm really sorry your daughter has to go through this difficult process. The first advice that I can give you is to believe her and to let her know that she didn't do anything wrong. I don't know how old is your daughter, but sadly many survivors blame themselves and for younger ones the feelings of guilt and shame may be even more overwhelming. Your support can make the difference for your daughter and help her understand she is not alone and should not be ashamed. A good place to seek guidance is the "secondary survivors" forum and I hope that we will be able to provide you with support and

Welcome to After Silence, triedtoforget And so are you. It can be very difficult to make the first step, and I'm happy you decided to join our community, use your voice, and believe that healing is possible.

Welcome to After Silence, cm I understand how you feel. I didn't deal with my rape for the first 2 years after it happened and even now I sometimes tend to put some of my issues away instead of dealing with them... especially when life gets busy. I am glad you have found us, and I hope that you will find strength and comfort in our community.

Hi Pilgrim and welcome to After Silence. It is ok to be shy and it is wise to protect your privacy when posting in one of our public forum. I hope you'll find our private ones safe and comforting. No matter what your story is, we believe you and we are here for you.

It's a great idea to have a pinned thread about emotional eating in the "Eating Disorders" forum. Would you like to start the topic? I will pin it once I see it in the forum. (The only rule would be no calories, weight and numbers)

Hey Haullie, I'll be adding both the forum you suggested and the one on activism suggested by Ashley. I just need to find the time, hopefully this week... I'm sorry for the delay, school madness and final exams

Happy Birthday Freedom and welcome to After Silence! I'm glad you found us and I hope that you will never feel alone again.

Hi Jess, Talking with your family can be one of the most difficult things to do. I haven't been able to open up with my family so far but as the years go by I feel better and I know that eventually the time will come. I hope you'll feel safe here. Make yourself at home and know that there is no pressure to share until you feel ready and comfortable. Welcome to After Silence.

I like the idea, Ashely. I was thinking of creating a similar subforum in the information and research forum.

Thank you for the suggestion, Haullie. I love your idea and I will discuss it with the other mods. The "Healthy Healing Exsercises" subforum would be a great addition!

Forums labeled as "public" are visible to everyone, including guests (unregistered members). Guests can see: GuidelinesWelcome!Research and Information FAQ, suggestions and commentsSecondary Survivors have access to:GuidelinesNews and UpdateWelcome!Secondary survivorsSimply lifeMy world is on fireHealing through creativityHealing tips and inspirationResearch and informationVolunteering and activismAmusement Alcove Humor and sillinessFAQ, suggestions and commentsOnly Survivors have access to:Share Your StoryWomen Only (subforum, only women have access) AftermathNeed to VentMale Survivors (o

Hi jess, When the staff members change, you may always find an updated list here: http://www.aftersilence.org/forum/index.php?showtopic=3520 For future reference just look at the list and it will show you who the mods and chat mods are. I hope this helps with the confusion

Sorry. The Chatroom is closed. Please Note: The chat room guidelines have been revised in an effort to make them as short and as clear as possible. We understand that sometimes reading through a lot of rules and text can be confusing so we hope this new version will make it easier for you to be familiar with our guidelines. (Please also note that N.10 is a new addition to the guidelines) Revised and Updated on April 19th, 2009 The Chat Room Guidelines The After Silence Chat is for sharing, listening, learning, coping and healing together and it can't be used f

Hey Teazle, You brought up a very interesting point. I actually do like "share your truth" more than "share your story." However, one thing we always try to achieve when naming a forum is clarity. We often move posts located in wrong forums and "share your truth", while more effective, is also more confusing because it may include all kind of topics. Given that most people don't actually read the description of the forums, "share your story" is less likely to be confused with a forum for aftermath, venting, or psychological issues... because the title is pretty self explanatory.

The "add a friend" option is a new feature of Invision, but we don't like it much and tried to get rid of it. Then we upgraded and it came back I will remove it from the board shortly again. We don't want this place to turn into myspace with friend lists, top friends, etc. It can create confusion and upset members who are not added back or don't feel safe knowing someone they don't know added them to a friend list.

Welcome to After Silence! The first post can be very difficult and I give you a lot of credit for reaching out and introducing yourself. Please know that we are here for you and that we can relate to what you are going through.