Kalalau thank you so much for this post. Sometimes I get completely thrown off guard by emotions and flashbacks of things whiach have happened in the past, and I feel like I am being self pitying and over reacting to something that happened once, a long time ago. You have laid out the complexity of it all, and how it is actually a big deal in such a logical way. I feel really empowered to read that it is a big deal, and a logical reasoning behind why it is such a big deal. This is something I have never been able to properly reason out in my own head. Thank you so much. I am saving your post on my laptop and will read it again when I next feel I am spinning out of control.