My twin daughters were abused by my father about 10 years ago when they were 10. At the time one daughter brought this to the light and it went to court. For various reasons he got off. The other daughter did not remember anything at the time but has recently informed the police that she now remembers and they are investigating. My father is now 84.
Partly as a result of the case my wife and I divorced... I was blamed for allowing the chuldren to be alone with my father although there was no indication that anything was wrong. I had a very difiicult year following that. Both daughters would not talk to me as I was the 'bad' guy despite the fact I had done nothing wrong. Eventually we sorted all that out and had a number of years which went ok. Then, over a year ago one of my daughters stopped having anything to do with me. She wont answer or respond to any form of contact. The spark was me refusing to give her a large amount of money for boots but I do not know whether that is the real reason. The other daughter and I have a good relationship and she does not know why the other will not respond.
The complication is that I still have some contact with my father. I have always found it difficult to understand how he could do such thing and know that I will never find out if I have no contact with him. He continues to deny it. Additionally I am struggling with the emotional aspect of losing my father but him still being around. Make sense? Both daughters now know I have contact with him albeit a couple of times a year. One understands, the other , I dont know.
I am not sure whether I should have any contact with him, for their sake. Can I expect them to understand how I am also a victim in this? Can they still understand how much they mean to me? Not sure what to do. Advice would be great. thankyou