MortalGoddess

Oh, I wanna try it!

Click. Flipped the switch. Get out of my head. Stay out of my bed. Stay out of my life. You're dead to me.

Thanks so much for getting the filter fixed. I'd noticed it...but hadn't really thought about it.

...for members who miss/grieve/love(d) their abusers. I saw a lot of us are posting topics about that. Can we have a sub-forum for it please?

Thanks so much Vera! You're awsome, as always!

Don't feel bad Phoenix, it took me years of using the internet to figure that out. At the bottom of the page in the left corner is a box. It's near the orange RSS icon, the first one. Click it and a menu will open. There's the skins!

I thought it was my comp! Good to know I'm not the only one having problems. I'll try the other skin....this centered text makes my head hurt. --edit-- Tulip appears fine...but that amount of pink....aaahhhh!! Eye strain! The IP skins (both of them) are also fine. Also very muted--it's blue/grey, so I'll stick with that until the problem is fixed. I do want to point out that that font in IP is small. I have my IE page settings for "largest" font, and where that usually makes it pretty big....it didn't touch these skins.

Oooohhhh, I second this! I've gone on several job interviews, and while those are stressful enough, some of them create situations (such as a small office) that makes me panic and mess up even more. I could really use a job....and also tips from survivors on how to cope during interviews. It's stressful not having a job, trying to find one, thinking you got it...and then finding out you didn't.

I think for newbies, if it is even possible for them to have their own color, it should be a choice. Maybe an option in their profile or the chat itself that is set for a month or so. If the mods decide to give it a try, I honestly think the newbies should have a choice in the final decision. After all...they're the ones who will be "colored". If they decide, I say make a new topic asking the newbies to weigh in. Would they find it too discriminatory or actually helpful? As for the male-female colors...I agree with Shido. I think it would become a form of discrimination or even unintentional

I've noticed some people, like me, have been abused multiple times (meaning it happens, there's a time lapse and then happens again) by the same person. Can we have a topic for it please?

Welcome. I'm glad you found the site and we're glad to have you.

I don't want to search, I want to sort. A way to sort all the new posts. If you click title/forum/starter/the posts would be listed in alphabetical order by topic title/forum/starter.

I've been thinking about this for a while but never got around to asking. Is there a way we can have the option to sort our new posts? I know they're sorted by time ("last action"). If someone really wants a topic they've already posted on, they could go to "my controls" to find it. I know for me I keep my lists of topics in "my controls" rather short...some people might have a long list of topics. But isn't there a way we can have an option to sort they for topic title/forum/starter?

I'd forgotten hotmail has a filter option! Ooops! Thanks twitch!

So was I. I normally don't care what people think....I can have whatever emails I want or be on whatever (legal!!) site I want. But there are days when I'm at uni and unstable/triggery...and the last thing I want is someone seeing the "other" part of the email title.

I started topics for fear of opposite and same sex. I'm pretty sure they're in the "gathering place" forum. Don't have time to go look it up right now. As I said in both topics: I'm trying to show members how to get to the root of their fear (not that there's anything wrong with a "general" fear) and how to express it.

That is what I'm trying to get across. But my other topic....apparently I didn't do that well enough. I'm not trying to encourage prejudice and discrimination only that people look within themselves and find what they truly fear. I sometimes forget I haven't had the same long discussions about fear and the meaning behind it. To my RL friends (most of whom are male) if I say "I'm afraid of men" they realize I'm talking about specifics, not the general populace. As a whole, men don't fear me. Being alone with a person I don't know who happens to be male does; having my personal space invaded (

I like it. I think there would still be a place to post TW and other warnings....just to warn potential readers. I've been thinking about suggesting this for a while...thanks for doing it!

I've noticed lately there's been a bit of...uproar regarding survivors and fearing the opposite sex (and comments members male about their fears). I was wondering if we could have a seperate topic/forum for survivors to talk about just their fear of the opposite sex. I know members start them, but it seems like they become forgotten easily. Or maybe a couple of chat nights? I know that by talking to other survivors (outside of the site) without worry that I'd be yelled at for describing my fears/beliefs, I was able to work past my fears.

Some of the stuff they have on there is wrong about me. **shivers** But still...I'm getting it removed. Thank you so much!

Welcome to AS. You're not alone here.

Welcome to AS. I agree with the others, your title is creative and made me giggle.

Petals: that sounds like a good idea. For simplicity's sake, maybe only the topic starters (and mods if asked to change the setting) should have the option for "enable SS to view" or something like that. I agree with RiseandShine, this seems really insensitive; AS is a place where ALL these things happen. At their own pace, this is true, but they happen none the less. Yes, we survivors have issues with trust and being vulnerable. But show me a person, SAS or not, who doesn't. Show me one person who has NEVER in their entire life had these issues. Unless they have a medical or psychological

From my alters: "You should have been P's w**re when he offered. Then you wouldn't be such a frigid b*itch too afraid to be naked in front of your mate." Um...wow, she was there, she's an alter. And at the time, she was saying something much different. "You chose to date Q, not us. E is your fault, not ours. You should have done what he wanted." "Aaww, it didn't hurt that much." I think "hurt" is an understatement since I couldn't walk straight for a few hours. "What are you whining about, he didn't rape you." Counselor: "That must have hurt." No sh*t! Of course it hurt, I tr

Slept in and then too a two hour nap just a couple hours after I got up! Even though I could have been cleaning, I've decided to be lazy until tomorrow!