I wonder about how helpful sites like this are, too. I used to be on here all the time, and it seemed more destructive sometimes. I was curious about whether or not my healing was hindered by it, but looking back on it, as much as I did revel in my pain on here now and then, I really got everything out.
It was kind of like ripping off a band-aid as opposed to rinsing it under hot water for several minutes and then letting it fall off on it's own. I really could've just worked through it on my own and avoided a lot of heartbreak and pain, but it may have stuck with me a lot longer and I know