So I received the divorce decree , it only states in it that E was negligent in his duty to my mother . And the divorce was granted on those grounds . Said nothing about the physical psychological or sexual abuse of us children.
I may call the County Clerk again to see if I can get the transcripts because according to A him and J were allowed to testify apparently I was considered too young . If they still exist
According to A when I found out I wasn't going to live with E I cried for a week . He said they couldn't understand why because we all wanted that son of the bit*h dead.
I believe I was trauma bonded to E. I don't have a date when E and M got married. And A can't remember. I know I was very young a year maybe two. I'm going to try to get a copy of of the marriage certificate this week.
So my entire childhood from one to two years old to 12 or so was spent with me being told that E was my daddy and I was supposed to love him.
He was the central figure in my childhood , what few memories I have of my childhood and what I'm slowly recovering he is in more of them than my mother .
You can take a dog , you can beat it , you can starve it and you can neglect it and it'll still lick your hand when you reach out to Pet it . And that's what I was,a badly abused animal . So it's really not surprising but I would have Trauma bonded with E.
I'm wondering if that's why don't remember the year so after he left , because of my psychological state it would've been very traumatic for me to have him leave . Even though I tried to kill him .
Couple that with the TBi I have ,the psychological problems from the physical and I'm beginning to believe sexual abuse , and incest it's no wonder I was insane for the rest of my teens .
And my mother , the highly skilled and highly trained medical professional , I guess decided I would just get over it . Yeah that didn't happen .
I was self-destructive emotionally unstable violent alcoholic . At 13 . I should've been in therapy from the time the marriage ended until I joined the military . I would respond to any stress with either violence or tears . But that would've required airing our dirty laundry in public and that something my mother was very opposed to.
eventually I quit responding with tears and just stuck with violence and anger.
When my mother remarried my real father , I remember relatively early in that he slapped me for something . Only time he did that . He came back in to my room a little later he found me sitting there with a loaded rifle on my lap. No I'm not going to somebody's punching bag again.
I don't think my mother ever told W exactly what went on so I don't think he ever really understood what was wrong with me , only something was .
As for M A and J , they treated me either with either laughter or contempt. Like I mentioned earlier in this blog I believe they thought I had absolutely no future so why bother . And they blamed me for the incest even though I was the youngest . I was the pervert not E and not them .
So to any one was reading this, for if you can't figure out why you stayed in a abusive relationship for so long , or why you can't seem to get out of it it could be trauma bonding . It's a very real thing .