Justified. It's the word that came forth from my pen as I journaled about the Matt Lauer deal.
Most women have a story. I have mine. Like Matt, he was well liked and fun loving. Along with that, there was a facet of him that was so not okay.
I am grateful there is more exposure. We've worked through this in my own Catholic Church.
Expose it. Name it. Claim it. Fix it. Heal it. Unfortunately for the victims, healing continues for a lifetime. Certainly with help, the pain and fear can lessen significantly. It remains, though, a fact of their life history. The perpetrators need healing, too. Our culture needs healing.
Let's talk about “locker room talk.” It's dismissed as no big deal. Honestly, in college, I become desensitized to it. Didn't think much about it. Just sorta played along, laughed it off. It needs to stop. I need the honorable man in the room to say, “Hey guys, this isn't okay. See ya.” And if a woman is present, give some gesture of support and protection.
The dignity of women. The dignity of men. The dignity of the human person. We're better than this. We were designed to be better than this. Justice, as a virtue, is a quality or habit which perfects the will and inclines it to render to each and all what belongs to them. For the purpose of this conversation - Dignity.
So while these are sad times, they are also liberating. There is hope. We can do this, but not alone. We need to turn to our brothers and sisters for help - those that are close to us that love us and support us and professionals that are compassionate and trained to heal.
Ultimately, God is our healer and comforter. Let's get to know him - as a culture - as individuals. He is pure Love. Love itself. Love is the antidote to this.
“...it does not not rejoice over wrongdoing but rejoices with the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things…” (1 Corinthians 13: 6-7)
December 1, 2017