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Just Be or Die


Miko

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just want to die. 

i am not eating because my husband asks dont u want to eat so i do the opposite. why? because our relationship is toxic. toxic to my recovery and he is toxic so emotionally draining and imposes his feelings on me. 

i want to exercise so i do brisk walk. oh the attitude he gives me. so dont follow me i say. he wants to follow and then gives me attitude. we even argue about which route to take.  i can appreciate that he doesnt like to walk then just let me be.

but he cant. so what do i do now? 

is death better? 

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as much as I love him, my husband is this way too. I call him an emotional parasite. he is latched onto me, not wanting to be separated. he has irrational fears I will leave him, or that I am constantly mad at him, so he sticks to me. He looks at me like im a china doll always on the edge of the counter, especially after he found out about my rape. I cry and he unravels. I suggest codependent therapy. It helps break that attach, while strengthening your relationship. You need a healthy balance of solitude, and support so you can heal and it seems like you are just not getting it right now. 

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My husband is like this too. He is emotionally draining!. He stays under me and always says he wants to talk but when I start talking he either talks over me or I feel like he's not listening and doesn't care. I've tried to leave but somehow I just keep coming back. Sometimes I think death is better. 

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On 29/01/2017 at 7:22 AM, nelly1859 said:

as much as I love him, my husband is this way too. I call him an emotional parasite. he is latched onto me, not wanting to be separated. he has irrational fears I will leave him, or that I am constantly mad at him, so he sticks to me. He looks at me like im a china doll always on the edge of the counter, especially after he found out about my rape. I cry and he unravels. I suggest codependent therapy. It helps break that attach, while strengthening your relationship. You need a healthy balance of solitude, and support so you can heal and it seems like you are just not getting it right now. 

Thanks, yes i need to heal n he isnt helping. will talk to therapist....

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On 17/02/2017 at 4:55 AM, ViolenceinSilence said:

My husband is like this too. He is emotionally draining!. He stays under me and always says he wants to talk but when I start talking he either talks over me or I feel like he's not listening and doesn't care. I've tried to leave but somehow I just keep coming back. Sometimes I think death is better. 

same.... it's been like this since before we got married...am trying to communicate differently with him...

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Same here only thing is I didn't mind the constant attention before. I feel like I don;t have a voice with mine so I just quietly go with almost everything.

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