When you do these exercises do them some place you feel safe and will
not be disturbed. Only share what you are comfortable with, and only
with people you completely trust. If your not sure if you want to
share or not, try asking your inner child.
There is a difference between pretending to be a child and
experiencing the child within. Experiencing the inner child is often a
very physical thing, try to pay more attention to your body sensations
in everyday life as well as your urges to be silly/play and your
emotions which are often primal.
Try to observe children without judgement. Don't try to make them more
adult and grown up. Also try to notice adult's inner children. My dad
makes silly noises when plying with my dog, this is his inner child
peaking out. Remember that there is a difference between child LIKE
behaviors and childISH behaviors.
As you start inner child work, if you have mistreated your inner
child, it may not want to trust you. It may hide, or only want to come
out very slowly, a little at a time. Be respectful of your inner
child's needs. as you become a better parent to your inner child keep
in mind it is a child. judging it or making it ashamed of itself will
not help. allow your inner child to act/draw/write like a child!
Remember to do these exercises in a place you feel completely safe.
Also note that your inner child may change forms. It may not be the
same gender as you. It may have a different name, and it's name and
age may change often. Keep the exercises you do in a safe place and in
order. remember to go slow and at your own pace. dont feel pressured
to do the following all at once.
materials: crayons and paper
1) you are about to meet your inner child. picture a beautiful,
comfortable, and safe place in the world where you two can meet.
2) close your eyes and imagine this place for moment picture your
inner child there, spend a few moments with them.
3) with your non dominant hand draw a picture of your r child.. take
your time and let it come naturally, dont try to force it or plan it
out. it may be awkward and slow. try to be patient
reflection: what was the experience like? did you judge your inner
child for its drawing not being perfect? or were you able to relax and
enjoy the inner child's art?
how do you feel about the drawing? what does the child in the picture
seem to say to you? on a new piece of paper with you dominant hand
write dont any reactions or comments about the drawing you have.
When you are ready, go on to the next exercise.
materials: crayons, paper, inner child drawing from activity 1
1) look at the picture from activity 1. write out a conversation
between you and your inner child using your dominant hand (the hand
you usually write with) as your current "adult" self, and your other
hand (non dominant) as the child self. start the conversation by
telling the child you want to get to know it so you can take better
care of it. ask its name, ad anything else it wants to tell you: age,
how it feels, its likes & dislike, what it wants, etc.
2) ask your inner child to draw what it wants most at this time in your life
3) close the conversation by asking the child to tell you anything
else it wants you to know. thank the child for coing out and talking
with you. tell it you want to keep having these talks so you can get
to know each other better.
when strong emotions come up in your everyday life, try letting your
inner child draw them with your non dominant hand. let the drawing be
expressive, it can be doodles, scribbles, lines and shapes or a more
formed object. if images appear thats fine, but don't plan what the
drawing will look like. just let it emerge. pay attention to the
colors your inner child chooses. select colors spontaneously, using
with your dominant hand reflect in writing about these exercises.
Hope These Help!
So I tried this and I was triggered. Im really upset about my parents not being there when I was being sexually abused. I forgive them but it makes me so mad thinking about how negligent they were.