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Living. An Introduction (Possibly *T*)



This is the first time I've tried anything like this. Part of me feels like I don't belong here. I skimmed through and there are horrible stories. But me? My ex husband sexually abused me. He didn't physically hurt me. He simply kept going and I didn't consent. A friend told me that was rape. Among other things. But I still feel..insignificant. I don't think half of the legal system thinks that marital rape is a thing. Everyone says you need to talk to heal. To survive. I am not a survivor. I am a woman who was raped by the person I trusted most. Now...almost two years later...I don't want to survive. I want to live a life as full as I can.


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Welcome to AS.  You are most certainly a survivor but you are also a warrior.  You are right unfortunately most courts still do not see marital rape as a thing.   It is disturbing but there is a lot of work to be done in that area.  It takes standing up and saying it is a thing and it also means pushing for laws that are different than the current ones.  I am sorry for what you went through.  A spouse is someone whom you share a part of your heart and soul with.  When they do something like this, it is hurtful and it is damaging too.  That is not to say you are damaged.  You aren't.  You do need to heal though.  You have to determine what your triggers are and learn to adjust to the new normal.  The new normal being life after this intrusion.   Rape doesn't belong in any loving relationship.  Down playing it, hurts you in the long run.  Please don't down play your experience.  What he did was wrong.  What he did was unfair to you.   What he did only considered his wants not yours too.   Healing is possible and you are already on the road.  Sending safe hugs if ok.  :hug:

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Thank you very much. I actually like hugs for the most part. Just not from strange men. Sometimes that is wierd

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