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Hello everyone,
I recently joined AS to help myself heal as I don't have a support system in real life. I figured that maybe communicating with other survivors who have been through similar stuff could help me feel better and maybe figure out my life. I was sexually abused by my ex-partner when I was a teenager. It caused me significant pain but somehow I found the strength and the coping mechanisms to move. I met a wonderful guy, who is currently my partner. I never thought that person could hurt me. Yet, he did. He forced himself on me when he knew I wasn't up for it. So he basically raped me. It hurts to write that down or say it out loud. I can't say it was violent (but he was slightly aggressive) and I didn't fight back as I froze, which makes me feel really bad. I knew he wasn't going to stop till he got what he wanted and that protesting me more would only make me feel worse afterwards. At the end of the day, he is a trusting partner. So I guess some people may say I am exaggerating. There are two specific occasions that I recall, as well as other instances where he was simply being pushy or inappropriate. The last time it happened, I realised it was not the first time he raped me and that freaked me out. He called what happened a misunderstanding both times, but I don't see how no and stop can be misunderstood. We talked in depth about it, and while there times he was being awful, he has taken full responsibility and has been trying hard to make it better. However, he started pushing my boundaries again shortly after it happened, but I left the room. I have been feeling really horrible since it happened. I tried telling a friend, but there was no support there, so I have decided to keep it to myself. Additionally, there have been instances where he was acted in an emotionally abusive manner. Usually, he doesn't behave that way but there are a few times he has throughout our relationship. Thus, I can't say if he is abusing me or not in that way. He is my partner and I love him more than anything, but there is a voice inside of me that is telling me to break up with him because all of the above will be repeated at some point.
Thank you for taking the time to read this. I would really appreciate some feedback.
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