Stefka

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About Stefka

  • Birthday 10/08/1976

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  • Gender
    Female
  • Location
    UK
  • Interests
    Theatre, drama education and rape activism.

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    Survivor

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    http://members.tripod.com/smurfy_beer-ivil/overtherainbow/
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  1. ((((Barbara))) I remember you well and am delighted to see you. I hope all is well with you. Take care Steph
  2. I think the isolation is one of the hardest aspects of dealing with abuse issues. I hope that being here brings you some comfort and helps you with your healing. Take care Stefka
  3. Hi

    Welcome to AS. Congratulations on your pregnancy. I am sorry that things are difficult for you at the moment - this is a good place to reach out for support while you try to manage what is coming up for you at the moment. I hope that being here helps. Take care Stefka
  4. I think your project sounds great and if you ever want someone to bounce ideas off of then feel free to pm me Stefka
  5. Welcome to the board Shelly Sorry you had problems on another board - I hope that you find a good home here and that being here helps. Take care Stefka
  6. Welcome to After Silence I am sorry for everything that you have been through. It is ok to be heated and it sounds like you have great ideas for letting our emotions out in a healthy way. I am a theatre person myself so totally relate to your desire to use creativity as part of your healing process. I have done a few projects myself that are related to what happened to me and I have a creativity section on my website. If you are going to create something then one thing that is worth thinking about is distance. I found it helpful to distance myself from the work - I never made things that were exactly about me - or at least I never identified them to others as being about me. Those close to me knew of course but it offered me some protection from other people's opinions. I am glad you found the board and I hope that being here helps. Take care Stefka
  7. Welcome to AS. I am sorry for everything that you have been through and everything that you are going through at the moment. I hope that being here helps you. Take care Stefka
  8. Welcome to After Silence. I am sorry for everything you have been through. There is no rush to share and I hope that being here helps you. Take care Stefka
  9. Welcome to After Silence I am so sorry for everything that you have been through. You have no reason to feel ashamed - what happened was not in anyway your fault. Many women stay with their abusers for many different reasons - it doesn't make what they do right. You have to put it into context - your background will have played a part in keeping you in that situation and then the boyfriend I am sure was constantly lowering your self esteem. It is not an easy thing to get out of an abusive situation, you are not supid for finding this hard. I am glad that you are seeing a T and hope that being here helps you with that process. Take care Stefka
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    Wecome to AS I am also from London! Nice to see another UK person on the board. I am sorry that you need to be here but I hope that being here helps. Take care Stefka
  11. Welcome to the board I am also 28. I hope that you find being here helpful. Take care Stefka
  12. Firstly Broken Shell I am so sorry for what happened to you when you were 4/5 years old. What a horrible and frightening experience that must have been. I am glad that you feel you have dealt with it and that it no longer causes you fear. Secondly I think that you were very brave to post about the incident when you were baby sitting. Making yourself vulnerable like that can not have been easy. But as you say it is probably something you need to speak about. My thoughts on what you describe are this - touching a child whether awake or asleep is abuse. I do think it is important that you acknowledge this. However apart from this you do seem to have taken responsibility for your actions. Stopping your contact with children was a wise move, even if another incident had never occurred it wasn't - as you seem to have realised - not a risk worth taking. If it is not the person you want to become then you probably won't become that person. You certainly seem to be working hard to make sure that this is the case. Seeking help and support for this incident as well as for the assualt you suffered yourself as a child is an important step and you should feel proud for taking it. Take care Stefka
  13. welcome to the board I hope that you find being here helps. Take care Stefka
  14. I am so sorry for everything that you have been through. I am pretty new here myself but have been made most welcome and I have no doubt at all that you will too. It is hard to reach out for help and you should feel proud for taking that step. I hope that being here helps you. Take care Stefka
  15. Welcome to the board I also like dancing although I am not very good at it! I am about to train as a teacher too . I was really nevous when I first posted on the internet but I am glad that you took that first step. I hope that you find being here help your healing journey. Take care Stefka